10 Ways Grandparents Can Support a Grandchild with Special Needs
Childrearing in today’s world can be highly challenging under the most typical of circumstances. Raising a child with special needs can add exponential layers of difficulty to the equation. Involved, supportive grandparents truly make a positive impact. For one central Arkansas family, the Dannaways, it has made all the difference.
Easter Seals of Arkansas CEO Sharon Moone-Jochums says, “No one ever plans to have a child with a disability. It gives me goose bumps to think about all of the grandparents I’ve known over the years who have shared the load and responsibility.”
Tyler Dannaway’s grandmother, Sandra Dannaway met Sharon while volunteering at a bone marrow drive for a mutual friend. Sandra shares, “We introduced ourselves. I think of it as divine intervention that we ended up standing beside each other in that huge room and crowd of people. It was 15 minutes that totally changed Tyler’s life. We have seen a huge turn around in Tyler since getting into Easter Seals.”
Tyler, 4, has been involved with Easter Seals since the January before his second birthday. He is currently in the STEP program (Specialized Teaching Using Evidenced Based Practices) classroom. STEP teacher and Behavior Analyst Alison McGrimley uses special strategies and PECS books, which is part of a picture exchange communication system that gives children control over their own schedule, choices and free time.
“At first Tyler wasn’t even answering to his name. The other day at the doctor’s office he whipped his head around when the nurse called his name,” beams Sandra.
Tyler’s mother, Teresa says, “We are so blessed to have Easter Seals and both sets of grandparents nearby to help.”
IT’S ALL IN THE FAMILY
The Dannaways’ tips for managing their lives and helping Tyler flourish:
1. Support parents 100%.
2. Research reliable sources.
3. Listen and learn from others.
4. Give constant positive reinforcement.
5. Treat the child as any other child, while understanding you’ll have to make some allowances.
6. Stay well informed and seek out ways to get involved, like attending seminars and joining support groups.
7. Be an advocate for your grandchild and family.
8. Work collectively with all family members.
9. Believe your grandchild will get better.
10. Be as loving as you can possibly be.